I present to you my mom’s boyfriend’s idea of humor.
Today, he decided that it would be a good idea to play a practical joke. He brought her a letter from one of those obvious scam “prophets”. You know, the kind of guy who runs a “ministry” where he asks for donations and says “OH THE LORD HAS SEEN YOUR DONATION AND WILL BLESS YOU WITH MONEY A HUNDREDFOLD NOW ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS KEEP DONATING”. You know, the kind where there isn’t really a ministry but instead a big fat bank account.
Well he shows her this letter thing that promises a prophecy of wealth in his future, yada yada. He goes to the patio about 5 minutes later, and after a moment or so runs back into the house carrying “gold coins” he dug up. Of course they’re not real, of course he’s the one who put them there in the first place. hahaha funny.
So this is the kind of thing only an idiot would fall for, right? Well, in a way, yes, if the subject of this joke was a person with full mental capabilities.
What my mom’s boyfriend failed to notice (and has repeatedly failed to notice for the past 4 years or so) is that my mom is mentally handicapped and has been her whole life. Not severely, but it’s there. She functions pretty well most of the time, but it is enough to make it a daily issue. She’s pretty well aware of it too. She feels constantly like she’s an idiot. It’s not like she chose to be like this, and it’s not like she’s still like this through some fault of hers.
So basically he makes fun of her faith (she can’t tell this particular “prophet” is a scam…honestly I don’t think he can either…), her mind, and the fact that we are in desperate need of money, and that her inability to get a job is part of why. He knows (at least he should by know) that she is the only person in our family who blames her for not being able to help support us monetarily. She’s beaten herself up over this for YEARS. He knows (again, in theory) that she’s disabled. He knows that she’s gullible though no fault of her own. He knows that her faith in God is strong. He knows that any little thing can get her angry.
As a Christian, I am offended that he would choose to abuse faith and the very words of God to cause pain (and I would feel the same regardless of the actual faith, or lack thereof, used). As an advocate for the disabled, I am offended that he would deliberately choose to make a mentally handicapped person feel like an idiot. As a member of this family, I am offended that he claims to be one too. And as her son, I will not take any of this bullshit.
I ask not for your hatred towards him or towards what he used to accomplish the destruction of my mother’s self esteem today, but for your support of my mother as she deals with being terribly hurt by a man who is no longer welcome in her life. Maybe you, people of Tumblr, can show her that there’s still a reason to believe in kindness, tolerance, and compassion.
Okay, so for everyone who doesn’t know, this is my brother. Not my “we share parents and grew up together” brother, but he’s as close to a brother as I’m going to get.
Please, go send him some love. He needs some bright lights at the end of his tunnel, and his mom does too. Send him love, send him hearts, send him Anime (he LOOOVVVEESS Anime ;P), send him MLP Stuff (he particularly likes Fluttershy and Rarity ;P), check out his blog and send him ANYTHING you think he might like, to make his day just a little bit brighter than it was. <3